SAFE Hearts… why it’s so important!

Sharing Awareness for Family Empowerment”

The SAFE Hearts line from Damsel in Defense has been a big hit since it was unveiled this last summer! We recently added some new products to it with the launch of the Spring/Summer 2017 catalog and I am so excited! I think my favorite new SAFE Hearts product is the family board game.

I’ve been 100% on board with this product line since day one, but it hasn’t been as popular for me as for others. I’ve been playing it off as “I don’t have kids so it’s harder for me to sell…” Well that’s some BS, and I’m calling myself out! 

Just because I’ve never been in that situation doesn’t mean I can’t invest in helping those who have. You don’t have to be a parent to know that children deserve safety. They are so impressionable, which means there is no better time to teach them how to handle tricky situations and to make it clear that no matter who hurts them or makes them feel uncomfortable, there is ALWAYS someone they can speak to. 

A couple weeks ago, in my seemingly innocent little hometown, a gal I knew in high school was arrested on some pretty serious and shocking charges. That’s when it all became real. I know there’s nothing I can do to change what happened, but I certainly can do something to make sure that more young people don’t fall victim to the coercion of tricky people. 

For the longest time, these were just statistics. Just numbers, sad numbers, but just numbers. Until now. You always hear that childhood abuse usually comes from someone the victim knows. It’s been proven, but up until now, it didn’t really sink in. You just NEVER know what someone is capable of. 

We’re not out to scare kids, or preach stranger danger but rather to empower children to take charge. They know what makes them uncomfortable, and there is never a reason for them to feel ashamed for  standing up for themselves. Everything about SAFE Hearts is family oriented, uplifting, and just good fun, with an important message.

I recently attended a women’s self defense class where they repeated over and over, “No is a complete sentence.” I believe with my whole heart that our children should be taught this, when it comes to the safety of their hearts and bodies. 

I absolutely love that the SAFE Hearts line is for the whole family! It encourages everyone to get involved and to learn, maybe even heal together. I think my favorite part is that Damsel has joined together with Stitch Counseling Services to make resources available to families who need them.

Damsel truly has something for everyone! I’ve been a part of this company for 3 and a half years, and I’ve never seen the mission waver. Equip. Empower. Educate.  Every single product or service this company has created is precisely in line with those 3 verbs.  I’m a pretty lucky girl to be a part of something so rewarding!! 

Visit my website to learn more about the mission or to contact me! 

 

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Harder in the Happy Times?

This entry is kind of all over the place so please bear with me. These thoughts have been rolling around in my head for a couple weeks now and I just had to put them on paper

It’s been just over 3 months now since Mom passed. My emotions are all over the place on a daily basis, which I assume is normal when dealing with a loss of this magnitude. I’ve definitely realized in the last couple weeks that the happier I get, the deeper it hurts. 

Perhaps it’s because we were so close. I can’t just pick up the phone and call her whenever I have exciting news. I can’t spend my days off shopping with her and getting all excited for the holidays. 

We used to Damsel together, she’s a huge part of why I joined in the first place. I’ve been a Damsel in Defense Independent Pro for 3 years now, but right now, for the 3 months since she left, I’ve been working my business FOR REAL, and it’s been rewarding in more ways than I can express. I seriously think to call her every time something amazing happens, and then I get a little sad. I know she would be proud of my recent accomplishments. She was always my biggest supporter and number one cheerleader. Part of me continues to Damsel because I know it was important to her to see me succeed, and the other part continues to press harder because I believe in the mission with my whole heart! Even though I know how proud she is, or would be, my emotional reactions in these times definitely range from one extreme to the other.

And now the holiday season is upon us. Thanksgiving happens to fall on Dad’s birthday this year, which is cool, but… we always have Thanksgiving at my grandparents’ house (on Mom’s side)… I don’t really know what to expect this year, but I told Dad we’d do whatever he wants. I know Mom’s family will understand if we don’t go to Grandma’s, but at the same time I feel like we would be breaking Grandma & Grandpa’s hearts if we don’t. I guess it 100% depends on Dad, but either way, it’s going to be difficult. 

Then there’s Christmas… My absolute favorite. I’m a self-proclaimed Christmas-aholic and I’m pretty sure most of my love for it came from Mom. Although a couple years ago it became perfectly clear to me why I’m such a sap when it comes to Christmas: 

My brother and I are both adopted, and I noticed a few years ago that on Mom’s calendar there was a day marked for my brother’s family anniversary, (she’s always had every important date on the calendar) but there wasn’t one for me. So, after a few cocktails, I asked her why mine wasn’t on the calendar. Her response? “Well probably because we brought you home on Christmas?” Grinning ear to ear, the little light bulb turned on, and it all made sense! Christmas was the best day of my life! But now I have to learn how to enjoy and celebrate the best times without the person who made them the best times…

Christmas baking was definitely my mom’s niche.When I was a kid we used to make an entire gingerbread village! Stained glass windows in the church and everything! She had a list of recipes that she’d collected and perfected over the years, but her sugar cookies were ALWAYS at the top of the list. Last year, Mom was just starting to not feel well, so she was changing her diet and trying to figure out what was going on with her body. My husband actually teased her that we wouldn’t be making an appearance if there weren’t sugar cookies! Luckily for us, she left an entire binder full of her recipes. I’ll have to do my best to carry on her traditions in the kitchen, even if it takes me a few years to perfect them like she did.

 
There’s also the matter of the spare closet. I already went through all the clothing in it, but the rest is all of her Christmas decorations. Cute little things my brother and I made for her when we were babes. Things she’d been gifted over the years. Keepsake ornaments she’s had for over 30 years. 

For my entire adult life, she has picked out a tree, always a Noble fir, tirelessly harassed my dad until it’s been positioned exactly right, and then called me to come help decorate the tree and the house. We had a select set of tapes and cds we played while performing certain Christmas related tasks. 

It’s unfathomably difficult to remain happy while reminiscing of Christmases passed. I have found myself getting super duper excited for Christmas in the last few weeks, thanks Hallmark Channel, and then I remember that it’s all going to change. I’m almost certain Dad’s not going to want to have it at the house like we always do. (Although I’ve been too chicken to bring it up with him.) 

I’ve been tempted to just run away and cancel Christmas this year. Doesn’t that sound wonderful? 

Then my conscience knocks and delivers an all expenses paid guilt trip. It totally wouldn’t be fair to my grandparents, both in their 90’s and just lost their daughter, for us to abandon 30+ years of tradition just because I’m sad.

There is one HUGE reason, aside from guilt, to be excited about the Christmas season this year, and that’s my brand new baby nephew, who will be just shy of 5 months old come Christmas. He was born 22 days after Mom passed. It breaks my heart that Mom was never able to meet her first grandchild, but it’s our duty to make sure he knows how much his grandma wanted to meet him, and that she loved him very much! I’m trying to cling to the idea of making happy memories for this baby, rather than being melancholy over all the things I miss about Christmas the way it used to be. 
I’m sure everything will all work out, I’m clearly not the only person who has ever been in this situation. I know I’m probably just over-thinking everything and creating unnecessary anxiety for myself. I know it’s going to be emotionally exhausting no matter how it works out, and I guess I’d rather be emotional while surrounded by my family than off somewhere trying to hide my feelings. Maybe it will be a good healing experience. 

The American Dream in 2015…

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What happened to the American Dream? It changed! (Sort of)

How many stories have you heard from your ancestors that started with, “I came to this country with fifty dollars in my pocket…”

Their dream was to be a part of something that would provide a better life for their families. They came in search of opportunity.

Sounds pretty simple and realistic, right? Isn’t that what we all want?

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I believe that the American Dream has become one of self-employment.
Most of us want to:
*Stay home with the kids
*Travel whenever we want
*Tell the boss “not today”
*Call the beach/pool/golf course “the office”
*Take time off for the holidays (as long as we want)
*Truly love what we do
*Feel like what we’re doing for a living is actually making an impact

The direct sales industry is making the dream a reality for thousands of people every day!

People often assume that direct sales means get rich quick, which is possible, if you have the time, energy, and enough existing capital.

Most of us who sign a direct sales agreement DON’T have a lot of time, energy, or money, but we do it anyway, in hopes of making it to the big time. We look for companies with a ground floor opportunity, or a proven track record of success.

I chose Damsel in Defense because of the product line, the ground floor opportunity, and most of all, the mission. While our mission is what keeps me going every day, this post is mainly about the money. Every time I hear someone say, “it’s not about the money…” I shake my head and think, it’s ALWAYS about the money! If it wasn’t, this wouldn’t be a business!

Did you know that 25,000 people sign a direct sales agreement every day!? -from my notes with keynote speaker and author, Mary Christensen .

It’s been nearly 2 years since I signed my agreement. I definitely haven’t gotten rich quick, but I am able to maintain my car payment with the extra income. I was so certain I would’ve been able to quit my day job by this point in my newly chosen career.

BUT, when it comes down to it, I’m lazy. You really only get out what you put in. When you’re your own boss, you have to be a little harder on yourself, and hold yourself accountable.

Thanks to Damsel’s unbelievable training portal and weekly training calls, and the incredible support system I have by my side, I am learning to get out of my own way. It’s not rocket science, but it does take practice and consistency to build a successful business. I’m still working on it, and loving every minute of it!

For now, I will continue building MY American Dream, while working for the man (as my brother calls it) and doing my best to help other women discover the wonderful opportunity that I’ve found in Damsel in Defense.

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Right now my goal is to earn this killer trip to Riviera Maya, Mexico, in May! I have until December 31st to earn it, so I guess it’s time to really step up my game, and step out of my comfort zone!

If you would like to know more about our mission, let’s talk! If you want to know more about the compensation plan, let’s talk! Find me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter. I’d love to share this adventure with you!
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Always a silver lining

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It’s been awhile since I had something to write that I felt was worth sharing with the masses. These thoughts have been rolling around in my brain for a couple weeks now, so I figured it was time to share.

Nine months ago I was transferred to a new store (technically my old store) and I was outraged. I didn’t want to leave the family I had made in Redding. I didn’t want to commute 25 miles one way. I didn’t want to spend an extra hour in my car every day. I didn’t want to rack up the miles on my brand new car. I don’t like change! Needless to say, this unwelcome change made me miserable and unhappy in my work.

Only recently did I realize, that it wasn’t the move that made me miserable, it was ME. I had been making myself unhappy with all the bitterness and anger that I kept letting fester inside me. When I really sat there and thought about it, there was a multitude of reasons for me to be happy with where I was in life. Trust me, I thought about it a lot! When you commute an hour a day, that’s a lot of time to think, also a lot of time to rock out! Have you ever noticed how much Taylor Swift songs make you think about your life? It’s pretty crazy!

Don’t worry, I did not have an TSwift inspired epiphany. But I did find my silver lining while driving 50 miles a day.

Working in Red Bluff has actually been a lot less stressful than Redding was. This is especially wonderful, considering I suffer from Essential Tremor (ET) which can sometimes be stress induced. I can count on one hand, the number of ET days I have had in the last 9 months.

The schedule that I have now, allows me so much more time to work my Damsel in Defense business. January 2015 was my personal best month, but then May 2015 surpassed that, and I was #1 in sales on our Guardian Angels team! I love having a boss and co-workers who are super supportive of the Damsel mission and who are totally willing and flexible when it comes to scheduling conflicts.

I have an excellent working relationship with all of my new co-workers. It’s clear that we are all working toward the same goal. We’ve gotten really good at sharing ideas and brainstorming when needed. I absolutely love being on the same page with everyone I work with. It makes for a much more enthusiastic work place. In the 9 months that I have been there, we have had some set-backs, but we keep finding new ways to work things out. We brought our customer service scores up from “challenge” to “front store excellent” status! That’s amazing! I have been recognized for my “legendary” customer service two months in a row!

I can honestly say that I have never (in 12 years) been happier in my work, and it clearly shows. I love both of my jobs!

I believe it was Theodore Roosevelt who said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I have found this to be profoundly true as of late. And I don’t mean just comparing your life to your friends’ lives, which I know we’ve all done at some point. Quit comparing your life to what it used to be, what you used to have, and where you used to be. Live in the moment! Since I have started focusing on the blessings in my life right now, the things I have the opportunity to do, and people I get to share those moments with, I have been exponentially happier!

You should really try it. It’s good for you!

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The road ahead {2015}

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It’s hard to believe we’re almost halfway through February already. I am beyond excited for the things this year has in store! Personally and professionally, this year could be one of my biggest adventures!

In the world of direct sales, January is often considered one of the roughest months. Folks come down with the wintertime blues I suppose. Whether they’re recovering from the tremendous amount of frivolous spending they did at Christmas, or they’re missing all the love and laughter of their holiday guests, it seems January can be hard on everyone.

BUT, I went into January pumped and ready for change, and I ended up having the best month I’ve had since I joined Damsel in Defense back in October of 2013.

Last month served as a reminder that attitude is everything. Of course, coming off my best month ever, I’m extra inspired! On January 18th, the Damsel in Defense corporate office announced their first ever incentive trip to Vegas so needless to say, I’m pretty fired up!
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To add to the Damsel excitement, we’ve just added a new service called Digital Damsel. It’s a one-stop shop for personal protection in this digital age. Identity theft protection, credit protection , social media monitoring and more!
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If you’d like to learn more about the future of Damsel and the exciting journey we’re on, I’d invite you to visit my website .

As far as my personal life is concerned, that’s pretty exciting as well. My sweet husband and I will be celebrating 10 years together and 8 years of marriage! We’re planning a vacation to Southern California to visit my best friend! This is kind of a big deal because we don’t really plan vacations. It’s gonna be AMAZING to get out of town for a minute! We haven’t been to SoCal we were newlyweds! Can you tell how excited I am?

Starting with this vacation, I’m vowing to take more time for myself this year. I still need my day job, but I’m not going to feel bad about taking every opportunity I can, to get away from it and do something fun! #thisis30
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So you wanna party [plan]

 

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Party plan companies have been around much longer than I have been alive. Pick a product, you name it, there’s probably a party plan out there that offers it, or something like it. How do you choose which one is right for you? I don’t know how you decided, but I fell in love with the mission behind my party plan.

I never thought I would end up being an independent consultant, and I certainly never thought that I could be truly successful at direct sales. Get ready for life changing news folks! Damsel in Defense is a faith-based, mission-driven company. There is so much more to this company than just selling a product and making a profit!

I don’t want to discredit any of the other party plans out there, but personally, I am tired of candles, jewelry, makeup, and all the stuff people are selling these days.

I wanted to get out of the daily grind. I wanted to make money, but I also wanted to be a part of something bigger than myself. As an Independent Damsel Pro, I have the opportunity to not only supplement my income, but also to make a real difference!

Damsel in Defense is about equipping women with the tools to not only keep them safe, but also to give them the confidence to know that they have a way out if they ever feel threatened. We are very excited about our affordable and adorable line of products. Whether you are at home or traveling, running or celebrating downtown with the girls, Damsel in Defense has the products and fact-based education that can and does save lives.

Our products provide peace of mind and a sense of empowerment. Sure, that candle smells really really good, or that jewelry piece is one-of-kind, but will they help you avoid a dangerous encounter? Will they keep your daughter safe while she’s away at college, or out with her girlfriends? Will that special moisturizer help you be independent and resourceful if your car breaks down? Will that extra cool baking dish save someone’s life?

I could go on and on about the differences between our products and those of other party plans.

To top it all off, and almost most importantly, every single purchase of Damsel product, means a donation is made to at least FOUR charities. Here at Damsel, we have three charities that we contribute to on a regular basis, internationally, nationally, and locally. Our co-founders choose a “Choice Charity” every month as well.

The 3 organizations that we give to every month are Wipe Every Tear, RAINN & Women’s & Children’s Alliance
To be a part of something as ground breaking and life altering as Damsel in Defense, is truly a rewarding experience! I have finally found something that I am passionate about. I can honestly say that what I do for a living, helps to save lives and make a difference!

 

If you are interested in becoming an Independent Damsel Pro, please get in touch with me! I’m looking to expand my team in all 50 states!

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Damsel Inspiration – April 2014

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In honor of Damsel YOUniversity starting this week, I’ve decided to make this month’s inspiration about dreams and goals.

For our week one challenge, we’re supposed to be making a “vision board” to help solidify our “why.” I am excited to finally make one! I’ve been making mental notes since I signed up in October, but haven’t made myself sit down and actually put it all together. It will definitely serve as a daily reminder as to why I got into this business, and give me that extra kick that I’ve been needing lately.

I am definitely in this business to make some money and change my life! Obviously money isn’t the only reason, but it certainly plays a major role.

I absolutely love everything about Damsel in Defense!!

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If you’re reading this, and you don’t know what Damsel is about, please visit my website or find me on Facebook. I am currently looking to expand my team, so please, get ahold of me today!!!