SAFE Hearts… why it’s so important!

Sharing Awareness for Family Empowerment”

The SAFE Hearts line from Damsel in Defense has been a big hit since it was unveiled this last summer! We recently added some new products to it with the launch of the Spring/Summer 2017 catalog and I am so excited! I think my favorite new SAFE Hearts product is the family board game.

I’ve been 100% on board with this product line since day one, but it hasn’t been as popular for me as for others. I’ve been playing it off as “I don’t have kids so it’s harder for me to sell…” Well that’s some BS, and I’m calling myself out! 

Just because I’ve never been in that situation doesn’t mean I can’t invest in helping those who have. You don’t have to be a parent to know that children deserve safety. They are so impressionable, which means there is no better time to teach them how to handle tricky situations and to make it clear that no matter who hurts them or makes them feel uncomfortable, there is ALWAYS someone they can speak to. 

A couple weeks ago, in my seemingly innocent little hometown, a gal I knew in high school was arrested on some pretty serious and shocking charges. That’s when it all became real. I know there’s nothing I can do to change what happened, but I certainly can do something to make sure that more young people don’t fall victim to the coercion of tricky people. 

For the longest time, these were just statistics. Just numbers, sad numbers, but just numbers. Until now. You always hear that childhood abuse usually comes from someone the victim knows. It’s been proven, but up until now, it didn’t really sink in. You just NEVER know what someone is capable of. 

We’re not out to scare kids, or preach stranger danger but rather to empower children to take charge. They know what makes them uncomfortable, and there is never a reason for them to feel ashamed for  standing up for themselves. Everything about SAFE Hearts is family oriented, uplifting, and just good fun, with an important message.

I recently attended a women’s self defense class where they repeated over and over, “No is a complete sentence.” I believe with my whole heart that our children should be taught this, when it comes to the safety of their hearts and bodies. 

I absolutely love that the SAFE Hearts line is for the whole family! It encourages everyone to get involved and to learn, maybe even heal together. I think my favorite part is that Damsel has joined together with Stitch Counseling Services to make resources available to families who need them.

Damsel truly has something for everyone! I’ve been a part of this company for 3 and a half years, and I’ve never seen the mission waver. Equip. Empower. Educate.  Every single product or service this company has created is precisely in line with those 3 verbs.  I’m a pretty lucky girl to be a part of something so rewarding!! 

Visit my website to learn more about the mission or to contact me! 

 

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Life after Mom… it must go on!

It’s been an entire month now since I said ‘goodbye’ to my sweet mommy. I never pictured my life without her. Now I find myself stumbling, somewhat gracefully, through my life; a bit scattered, extremely emotional, kind of dazed, super determined to make big changes… I don’t really know what I’m doing, or how I’m doing it, so for now, I’ll just tell you what I do know. 

On April 7th, 2016, Mom was blindsided with a stage 4 pancreatic cancer diagnosis. By the time the doctors discovered it, made up their minds as to what kind of cancer it actually was, and were prepared to offer a course of treatment, it was too late. We got to spend 3 full months together, crying, laughing, cooking, praying, and saying the things that needed to be said. I only got to have her for 3 months and 1 day after that life altering phone call. 

It’s really easy to be angry with the doctors she saw, especially those before the diagnosis. She was “sick” for about 6 months before, with no discernable illness, and certainly no major indicators of cancer. I’ve definitely lost some faith in the ability of the medical “professionals” in our area. 

It’s difficult to be alone, and hear a song, or see a photograph that reminds me of her. I always smile at first, but then the flood gates open. I got my eclectic taste in music from her!

It’s difficult to not be able to pick up the phone and call her whenever I want. We talked on the phone almost every day. She was the only person I called on a regular basis. When she started texting a few years ago, we wound up “talking” every day. 

It’s painful to think that she didn’t get to meet her first grandchild, who was born a mere twenty-two days after she left us, but comforting to know that she is up there in heaven, and got to see it all from the best seat in the house. 

I’m so grateful that we got to celebrate her 54th birthday with her just a few weeks before things got bad. It makes my heart happy that she and Dad got to go away for a few days for their 32nd wedding anniversary just days before she became confined to her bed.

I am eternally grateful to the hospice staff! They were wonderful at answering all of our questions, even over the holiday weekend. It was incredibly comforting to hear them say that we were doing a great job in keeping Mom medicated, comfortable and clean. The compassion they showed my family through every step of the longest week of our lives was just immeasurable.

It’s comforting to know that there are so many people out there whose lives were touched by my mommy. I seriously don’t think I’ve ever met a single person who didn’t have something nice to say about her. I love hearing stories from her friends. My heart beats a little faster and a smile spreads across my face when I see pictures of their adventures together. Mom was only 54, but she lived an incredibly full life. 

I have to keep reminding myself that she’s in a better place, free of pain, cancer free, and celebrating with all our loved ones who beat her there. I will forever cherish the time we got to spend together in her last couple months. I’m blessed beyond words to have been able to call her my mommy, she chose me to be her daughter, and it was just an added bonus to call her my best friend.

So yes, it’s difficult to answer the, “How are you doing?” inquiries every day. “I’m doin…” That’s my typical response, but what I mean is, I’m sad. My heart hurts. I miss my mommy. While I appreciate that people care and that they’re taking the time to check on me, honestly, I don’t really know HOW I’m doing. By the grace of God, I’m alive, back to my routine, and still able to laugh and smile, so I guess I’m doing alright.

Keep singing and dancing with the angels, Mommy. I’ll see you again someday! 

The American Dream in 2015…

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What happened to the American Dream? It changed! (Sort of)

How many stories have you heard from your ancestors that started with, “I came to this country with fifty dollars in my pocket…”

Their dream was to be a part of something that would provide a better life for their families. They came in search of opportunity.

Sounds pretty simple and realistic, right? Isn’t that what we all want?

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I believe that the American Dream has become one of self-employment.
Most of us want to:
*Stay home with the kids
*Travel whenever we want
*Tell the boss “not today”
*Call the beach/pool/golf course “the office”
*Take time off for the holidays (as long as we want)
*Truly love what we do
*Feel like what we’re doing for a living is actually making an impact

The direct sales industry is making the dream a reality for thousands of people every day!

People often assume that direct sales means get rich quick, which is possible, if you have the time, energy, and enough existing capital.

Most of us who sign a direct sales agreement DON’T have a lot of time, energy, or money, but we do it anyway, in hopes of making it to the big time. We look for companies with a ground floor opportunity, or a proven track record of success.

I chose Damsel in Defense because of the product line, the ground floor opportunity, and most of all, the mission. While our mission is what keeps me going every day, this post is mainly about the money. Every time I hear someone say, “it’s not about the money…” I shake my head and think, it’s ALWAYS about the money! If it wasn’t, this wouldn’t be a business!

Did you know that 25,000 people sign a direct sales agreement every day!? -from my notes with keynote speaker and author, Mary Christensen .

It’s been nearly 2 years since I signed my agreement. I definitely haven’t gotten rich quick, but I am able to maintain my car payment with the extra income. I was so certain I would’ve been able to quit my day job by this point in my newly chosen career.

BUT, when it comes down to it, I’m lazy. You really only get out what you put in. When you’re your own boss, you have to be a little harder on yourself, and hold yourself accountable.

Thanks to Damsel’s unbelievable training portal and weekly training calls, and the incredible support system I have by my side, I am learning to get out of my own way. It’s not rocket science, but it does take practice and consistency to build a successful business. I’m still working on it, and loving every minute of it!

For now, I will continue building MY American Dream, while working for the man (as my brother calls it) and doing my best to help other women discover the wonderful opportunity that I’ve found in Damsel in Defense.

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Right now my goal is to earn this killer trip to Riviera Maya, Mexico, in May! I have until December 31st to earn it, so I guess it’s time to really step up my game, and step out of my comfort zone!

If you would like to know more about our mission, let’s talk! If you want to know more about the compensation plan, let’s talk! Find me on Facebook or follow me on Twitter. I’d love to share this adventure with you!
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The road ahead {2015}

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It’s hard to believe we’re almost halfway through February already. I am beyond excited for the things this year has in store! Personally and professionally, this year could be one of my biggest adventures!

In the world of direct sales, January is often considered one of the roughest months. Folks come down with the wintertime blues I suppose. Whether they’re recovering from the tremendous amount of frivolous spending they did at Christmas, or they’re missing all the love and laughter of their holiday guests, it seems January can be hard on everyone.

BUT, I went into January pumped and ready for change, and I ended up having the best month I’ve had since I joined Damsel in Defense back in October of 2013.

Last month served as a reminder that attitude is everything. Of course, coming off my best month ever, I’m extra inspired! On January 18th, the Damsel in Defense corporate office announced their first ever incentive trip to Vegas so needless to say, I’m pretty fired up!
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To add to the Damsel excitement, we’ve just added a new service called Digital Damsel. It’s a one-stop shop for personal protection in this digital age. Identity theft protection, credit protection , social media monitoring and more!
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If you’d like to learn more about the future of Damsel and the exciting journey we’re on, I’d invite you to visit my website .

As far as my personal life is concerned, that’s pretty exciting as well. My sweet husband and I will be celebrating 10 years together and 8 years of marriage! We’re planning a vacation to Southern California to visit my best friend! This is kind of a big deal because we don’t really plan vacations. It’s gonna be AMAZING to get out of town for a minute! We haven’t been to SoCal we were newlyweds! Can you tell how excited I am?

Starting with this vacation, I’m vowing to take more time for myself this year. I still need my day job, but I’m not going to feel bad about taking every opportunity I can, to get away from it and do something fun! #thisis30
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Another day, another dollar… And a transfer?

August 29, 2003 – I got hired at my first real job!! It was going to pay my bills, and help me get through college. I was a functioning member of society and a responsible adult.

August 2005 – I was moving away to the coast for my last two years of college, and taking my job with me. I transferred to a new store, got a new job title. Things were working out great!

May 2007 – I graduated from college, and transferred back home for the summer. I was getting married in a few months and needed to keep working. We got married in July, and moved back to the coast!

April 2008 – I transferred again, took a new position, and was finally a full time employee. I had a set schedule! Life was good!

February 2009 – The company I worked for got bought out by an even larger corporation. We were lucky to be able to keep our jobs, and our years of service. The job title I held with my original employer no longer existed, but the new company gave me a new one. I was now a Shift Supervisor. Sweet!

June 2009 – My husband graduated from college, and we decided to move back home. Again, I transferred back to my home store. It was nice to reconnect with old coworkers. But there was a huge drawback to this transfer. I had a 50 mile round trip commute. It got old in a hurry, but there was nothing I could do about it. We needed the money, and I was comfortable with my coworkers and my position.

January 2011 – A shift supervisor position became available at a store only 20 miles round trip from my house. I jumped at the opportunity!

I remember telling my DM that I was never going to transfer again. I was happy at this store, and if I ever left, it would be because I had gotten a new job.

August 20, 2014 – I got called up to the manager’s office, and he told me that I was being transferred back to my home store. What!!??

I had no say in the matter, and neither did he. Apparently the DM decided that somebody needed to be sent down there, and since I had worked there before, I was the chosen one.

August 29, 2014 – Today is my 11 year anniversary with the company. I have 6 working days left at my current store. I start work at my new/old store on September 7th.

I’m looking forward to working with my old friends, but I am certainly not looking forward to the added commute and all the miles it will put on my new car. I will miss the friends that I have made at my current store.

I’m trying to look at this change from a positive perspective, but it’s hard, especially today. I never expected to be in this job, for this long, and then have it all change, without my consent.

At least I have a job, and it’s a good job. Thankfully I have my Damsel in Defense income to help supplement the negative changes with my day job.

Lucky Number 7

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July 14, 2007 – Turtle Bay – Redding, California

It was 105 degrees outside, and my dress weighed about 15 pounds. I had been planning this day for a solid year, but had envisioned it for as long as I could remember. The museum had been filled with pink and yellow everything, including the bridal party. The best men, and maids of honor wore pink, while the groomsmen and bridesmaids wore yellow. I never knew those boys could clean up so nicely.

Everything was exactly as it should be. I was surrounded by my dearest friends and family, and the man of my dreams was waiting, anxiously, at the altar.

The ceremony was short and sweet, very traditional, yet personal. We became Mr. & Mrs. in about 10 minutes flat.

We danced back down the aisle to Yes! by Merry Clayton and out into the blazing heat to take pictures on the Sundial Bridge. Jennifer Marinelli did such a great job of capturing the moments I really wanted.
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As soon as we were done with photos, we went back into the air-conditioned museum to party the night away! There were so many special moments throughout the reception, I couldn’t even begin to put them all into words!

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I can tell you that we (the bride & groom) were the last people to leave! We were just having too much fun, with all of our favorite people. The soles of his shoes fell apart, and my bustle was torn. It was a spectacular night!

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Here we are today, 7 years later! I think it’s supposed to be 106 degrees today. There won’t be a huge party with tuxedos and fancy dresses, a giant cake, or hundreds of guests. But there will be a man, and his wife, celebrating together. There won’t be a barrage of photos, but perhaps a selfie or two. They won’t physically be with us, but we will always be surrounded by the love and support from our friends and family. There won’t be champagne, but there will certainly be a toast, to many years to come.

It’s hard to believe that 7 years have passed already! Apparently time really does fly when you’re having fun!! There’s no one else I’d rather be growing old with.

Happy Anniversary Babe! I love you forever!

Damsel Inspiration – April 2014

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In honor of Damsel YOUniversity starting this week, I’ve decided to make this month’s inspiration about dreams and goals.

For our week one challenge, we’re supposed to be making a “vision board” to help solidify our “why.” I am excited to finally make one! I’ve been making mental notes since I signed up in October, but haven’t made myself sit down and actually put it all together. It will definitely serve as a daily reminder as to why I got into this business, and give me that extra kick that I’ve been needing lately.

I am definitely in this business to make some money and change my life! Obviously money isn’t the only reason, but it certainly plays a major role.

I absolutely love everything about Damsel in Defense!!

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If you’re reading this, and you don’t know what Damsel is about, please visit my website or find me on Facebook. I am currently looking to expand my team, so please, get ahold of me today!!!